Saturday, July 2, 2011

What Goes Around...

Karma is a word often associated with “getting what you deserve”. Good or bad, it’s the return on what you put out. In most cases people use it as a guide for social behavior, and as a comfort to themselves when wrong is done to them. It also inspires them to do good things in hopes that good will come back to them. We need to put all of those feelings a side. Karma is simply the “full circle” of cause and effect.

As humans we have this natural need for balance and justice. It’s what keeps us civil and sane. We can live with our good deeds going un-noticed but our pain must be vindicated. “Karma” then gets substituted for vengeance. Some of us go out to retrieve our pound of flesh but most of us can sleep with the belief that “they’ll get theirs”.

Here’s the “funny” part…in most cases they already did. People who come from bad beginnings (abuse, neglect) often grow up to be the ones doing bad or hurtful things to others. Their feelings of anger, resentment, and sadness drive them to lash out and it desensitizes them to the world that they create around them. Most bullies were bullied themselves, just as most thieves have been stolen from. The pattern is created and then duplicated until the cycle is broken. What goes around comes around, and usually stays until addressed.

Karma isn’t about “an eye for an eye”, it’s not about emotions, and really do we want it to be? Pain for pain doesn’t necessarily equate to understanding. When someone wrongs us, the ideal “payback” would be something happening in that person’s life to bring them to a place where they are humbled and “get it”. I don’t need for you to hurt because you hurt me that will only balance us out. I want you to understand so that you don’t go on to hurt ANYONE else. That’s what also leads to people finding peace within themselves. That’s coming full circle.

We need to remember as well, the lives we live bring these people into our worlds. They ARE the effect of the decisions that we have been making. If you find yourself in the same situation repeatedly, what are YOU causing? If your job history, friendship interactions or relationships seem like a scene from the movie “Groundhog’s Day” maybe you’re the one that needs to “get it”. We do so many things that effect so many people, and most of the time we don’t even know we’re doing it. We get caught up in our own world and don’t see how our floor is someone’s ceiling. Sometimes we need that slap in the face from life to snap us out of it, to see what’s going on.

Life is a 24/7 opportunity to learn and appreciate. Take it all in; from the good to the bad, the fair and the foul. We need it all, that’s balance, that’s justice…that’s karma.

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