Monday, September 26, 2011

Let's Hope We Change

“The road ahead will be long. Our climb will be steep. We may not get there in one year or even in one term. But, America, I have never been more hopeful than I am tonight that we will get there.
I promise you, we as a people will get there.

In this country, we rise or fall as one nation, as one people. Let's resist the temptation to fall back on the same partisanship and pettiness and immaturity that has poisoned our politics for so long.
That's the true genius of America: that America can change. Our union can be perfected. What we've already achieved gives us hope for what we can and must achieve tomorrow.

This is our time, to put our people back to work and open doors of opportunity for our kids; to restore prosperity and promote the cause of peace; to reclaim the American dream and reaffirm that fundamental truth, that, out of many, we are one; that while we breathe, we hope. And where we are met with cynicism and doubts and those who tell us that we can't, we will respond with that timeless creed that sums up the spirit of a people: Yes, we can.”
-Barack Obama

The nation was captivated as we listened to the words spoken by our newly elected 44th president Barack Obama. He campaigned on the premise of hope and change for a new America. The nation fell in love with the idea and concept of this utopian society void of its past failures and flaws. Yes Barack Obama made the world believe in change and then we hoped…

We hoped there would be this systematic change to take place magically as soon as he stepped into the White House. We believed that we were on the brink of this new understanding, and then…nothing. That’s right, nothing. Because the one fundamental part of the Obama equation never happened. WE never changed! We hoped he would fix everything instead of sacking up and digging a little deeper to help this country bounce back. City to city, town hall meeting after another, President Obama campaigned telling the people that “we” need to do more and we only heard “he”. So where does that leave us now?

We are now staring down the barrel of a situation no one wants to be in. Since the people of this nation didn't hold up its end of the bargain the government is going to try to force their hand. After being elected Barack Obama bailed out the auto industry and put things in place to cushion the real estate collapse. Along with the war and quest for Bin Ladin, President Obama has spent more money in two years than any other president in US history.

Our economy is in a state of intensive care and now this… There is a proposal for universal health care as well as a heavy tax increase for anyone making over $250,000 a year. That increase would all but kill small business owners, forcing them to either layoff employees or downgrade their own personal living situation. Why? Why do we feel this need to punish the achievers of our society to take care of the less fortunate? Charity should be a gift not a requirement. Why should we penalize those who accomplish and excel and then do it under the guise of “helping out”? Where is the call for personal responsibility from those with their hands out? Don’t worry, I’ll wait…

Here’s the cold reality of it all, sip slow; people are stupid, lazy, un-ambitious and have massive feelings of entitlement. We have been coddling them as a nation for too long and if we don’t get this under control now, we may never.

Our government has become nothing more than an overprotective parent for its citizens and is no longer taking the steps to really prepare its people for the real world. We spend billions of dollars a year on social programs to allow people not to work and enable their bad decisions. A quick history lesson; the basic duties of the government are to protect the natural territory & preserve peace within its boundaries. The government is to maintain the infrastructure (i.e. roads, schools, law enforcement, fire dept) it was never designed or intended to cover the costs for programs like welfare, unemployment etc.

Year after year we continue to raise taxes on those who achieve in this country. We demand more of their income and work under the premise that it’s their duty. Why? Why should someone who works hard, pushes themselves and reaches their goals be punished and forced to pay out more than their share for someone who may never have even tried? This isn’t just a “woe is me” for the rich, it’s about what that kind of thinking does to everyone.

When people know that there will always be a safety net it alters their decision making; it gives them an out for ambition. So many men & woman now believe they are entitled to being taken care of and our society has reached an insane level of dependency. So what would happen if that changed? News flash, we never voted on the social programs put into place now. Our representatives at the time merely made the decision and gradually we have expanded on it. But what if we took it to the polls? How would this nation respond to having the choice to help its fellow man instead of being obligated?

If the government stopped spending its resources on social programs it would have the money to lower taxes and rebuild its infrastructure. There would be an instant surplus of funds to go into the building of bridges, roads, and schools as well as money for law enforcement, fire fighters and the military. Employed people would keep more of their paycheck and there would be an instant spike in consumer spending. The government would still take care of its veterans and we would continue to have programs for the people funded by the private sector.

So why aren’t we doing this? The sad part is because of the initial shock to our dependent society. Imagine everyone being given a deadline to get their act together before the government shut their water off. How many Americans would step up? How many would truly take advantage of their free education and study while in public school? How many would be true parents and raise the children they brought into this world? How many would do all they could (the right way) whether it’s going to college, working labor jobs, even joining the military to not be burdens on the system?

If this new tax plan and universal health care go through I fear it will be the beginning of the end. Ambition will be done away with. The more we condemn those that have achieved, hinder those that are trying and reward those who have failed, the more we are setting the table for one of two outcomes; failure or revolution.

Barack Obama was elected the 44th president of the United States of America because he made the people believe. It’s time for us to follow up his words with action, because it’s not about the statement of “Yes We Can” but rather the action of “YES WE WILL.”

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Wednesday, September 21, 2011

And Justice For All

(Courtesy of the Huffington Post)
“Davis has been on death row since 1991, convicted of the 1989 murder of a police officer. But pervasive questions about his innocence have plagued the case. Davis was convicted almost solely on eyewitness evidence, and seven of the nine witnesses who testified against him have recanted their testimony. There is no physical evidence tying Davis to the crime, and another man has even confessed to the killing. Nevertheless, after years of appeals and several stays of execution, the Georgia Board of Pardons and Paroles upheld Davis’ convictions and he is scheduled to be killed by lethal injection on Wednesday night.”

Troy Davis is an African American man facing the death penalty today for the murder of a white police officer in Georgia in 1989. He was convicted based on evidence including; a ballistics report that proved the gun that shot the police officer was the same one used by Davis in another shooting earlier that day. The weapon was however never recovered. Along with eye witness accounts that placed Davis at the scene of the crime and named him as the shooter, Davis was found guilty and sentenced to death. Since the conviction, 7 of the 9 eye witnesses have recanted their statements (not under oath in court) and the man that was with Davis has confessed to the shooting. This evidence has bought Davis more time, as his last appeal was denied he now is facing the termination of his life. Protesting has been coming from all over the globe; people who are screaming for justice for Davis as well as voicing their opinions on the holes in the capital punishment theory.

Law enforcement stands by the conviction. They feel they have the right man. Popular opinion begs to differ. But let us not forget our judicial system. From Casey Anthony to OJ both walking as a free man and woman with mounds of evidence against them to the BART officer in the Oscar Grant case getting a slap on the wrist for his executioner style shooting of a handcuffed man on film; there are so many intricacies in our legal system that don’t always lead to “justice”.

The first card thrown out in this discussion is Race. If Davis were white, many people feel he wouldn’t be facing the same outcome. Maybe, however there is a man named Scott Peterson currently sitting in prison for the rest of his life convicted for the murder of his wife Laci and unborn son, ONLY on circumstantial evidence. There was no physical evidence, DNA, or eye witnesses that saw him commit the crime yet Peterson is never going to see the light of day and he’s white. For the record…that’s b.s.

Truth be told Scott Peterson was convicted because he was cheating on his pregnant wife and was making plans to leave her for another woman. His character was destroyed and people wanted to see him go down. Troy Davis was involved in another shooting and an assault that same day. With a dead police officer, “justice” has to be served and he “fits the description”.

There will most likely be no divine intervention that saves Troy Davis’ life today. He will die not only for his convicted crime but for the life decisions he’s made that paints the picture of his character. His character is why he is going to die. If those other incidents hadn’t happened, he wouldn’t be facing the end of his existence. Is that fair? Is that justice? Do we weigh a man’s track record against his life? Davis had a rough youth and made a series of not so great decisions, ones that led him to where he is today. You can make the argument that he may have more likely than not committed the crime…but not beyond a reasonable doubt. He is not being judged for his involvement in a crime, but for what kind of man he has been.

Justice is balance. But is ending a man’s life prematurely for the premature ending of another’s really how we want the scales evened? A man is being executed with more question marks than the “Riddler’s” outfit surrounding the case. Why? It needs to be looked at closer.

“An eye for an eye and we both lose our sight”.


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Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Give Me 10: 10 Signs That You Might Be A Bad Parent

Give me 10: 10 reasons, examples or indicators of a certain behavior. Take the time to use the checklist…you may need to check yourself. Today‘s list: 10 signs that you might be a bad parent.

10# Your children call you by your first name.

9# You and your son have the same dealer.

8# You make sure to bring condoms to your kid’s play dates.

7# You thought child support was included with the dinner bill.

6# If you’ve ever said to your kids, “You smoking my sh*t?!?”

5# Your daughter has dated nothing but losers and you loved every last one of them.

4# You look at every new baby as an opportunity for good credit.

3# Your daughter does porn.

2# You have your kids hold your camera phone so you can take bathroom pictures.

…and the 1# sign that you might be a bad parent…

This is your child...

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Monday, September 12, 2011

Give Me 10: Signs It's Time To Settle Down

First of all thank you to all of the loyal readers for sharing these moments with me. For all of you that have been readers since my first rant to all of you brand new to the experience, you are appreciated. Now I’d like to introduce you all to a brand new segment of the blog, “Give me 10”.

Give me 10: 10 reasons, examples or indicators of a certain behavior. Take the time to use the checklist…you may need to check yourself. Today‘s list: 10 signs that you may need to settle down.

10# You bump into one of your friend’s kids at the club.

9# After dating all of your phone contacts you go back to “A” & start again.

8# Your children are getting married before you.

7# You're flirting with a hot man/woman & they say,“Don't you know my mom?"

6# You’re dating a man/woman so much younger than you that whenever you pick them up an “Amber Alert” goes out.

5# Your parents are threatening to adopt grandchildren.

4# You’ve become the “old guy” at the club.

3# If all of the boys in the neighborhood refer to you as “Miss Parker”.

2# Ladies if you & your children all have different last names, yet you’ve never been married.

…And the 1# sign that you may need to settle down…

When you walk into “Planned Parenthood” they shout out your name like “Norm” on “Cheers”.

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Tuesday, September 6, 2011

A Cold Cup Of Coffee: Single Mothers

This is a special edition of A Moment With Morris. This is part of an ongoing series I affectionately titled "A Cold Cup of Coffee". Bringing you real life without the sweeteners, a cold and sometimes bitter, but always necessary sip of reality. This time we're looking at, “Single Mothers”.

I recently addressed bitter single parents on A Cold Cup Of Coffee, this is different…and oh so necessary. I was blessed with the opportunity to be a part of an on-air discussion about the effects of fatherless families, specifically on men. There was a lot of great dialogue and insight. We all threw our two cents into the hat and relived our childhood and adolescent experiences. We discussed everything from learning to tie a tie even to what kind of husband, fathers… really what kind of men we’ve become.

I think this kind of discussion is important however one thing that I had some difficulty with was this overwhelmingly accepted feeling that a single mother is to be heralded. Not just in this discussion but so often in life I hear that the single parent struggle is one that rivals the feats of Hercules. Please don’t get me wrong, my mother was a single parent and I love her for all that she was and even what she wasn’t and even she gets mentioned in these fables of greatness.

There is this belief and excepted understanding when it comes to the plight of the single mother; she is the burden bearer, the rock, she is taking on the task of not only reproducing but raising the future kings and queens of this society. She is to be respected for her sacrifices and honored for owning up to her responsibilities…really?

Take this moment to take a deep breath before you get a swig of this cold cup. Don’t worry, I’ll wait…

Let’s first address what a single mother is, and not just single because you don't have a man. Single as in your child's only active parent…

With the exception of DEATH, a single mother is like a couple going out to dinner; you both sit down at the table. You order wine to go with your appetizers. He’s feeding you calamari, you’re feeding him crab cakes, it’s all love. You then move to the meal, you both have steaks just the way you like them. It’s juicy and perfectly cooked with the potatoes. The two of you even stay for coffee and dessert. You’re sitting back in sheer contentment. Then he gets up to go to the restroom and sneaks out the back as the waiter hands YOU the check. Welcome to single motherhood.

That’s right, let’s stop making this out to be more than it is! Is it great that YOU own up to your responsibilities and even take on his? Yes, but don’t make it sound like you rushed into a burning building to save some orphans! Look it sucks that you have to pay the whole check when it should have been 50/50, but there was no argument or issue while you were sipping merlot and picking porterhouse out of your teeth. Don’t go screaming victim now, you savored those crab cakes now break open your piggy bank and pay the check! The restaurant and waiter don’t owe you a pass just because you picked a suspect eating companion. The only one in this world who owes you anything is him!

First off this is not a pass to suspect dudes. If you’re that weak individual that would leave a woman holding the bill now that you’re satisfied, you suffer from what is commonly known as…Bitchassness! You are as weak as a watered down Lemon Drop and nothing but punk flows through your veins. In the words of Silky Johnson, “may all of the bad things in the world happen to you and only you.”

Ladies, this isn’t designed to put you down. You need to realize that being left to raise a child on your own is not something to be championed. It is the result of bad decision making. If we’re going to address this problem, let’s be real. We need to stop praising under false pretenses! Women, stop going to “dinner” with every man just because he asks you. If you know he’s broke and unreliable leave him be, especially if he’s been known to dine and dash before. You have to make the decision to have self respect and be proud of yourself. If you go falling for every man that tempts you with beef you will more likely than not end up in some regrettable situations.

There are too many single mothers out there. Trying to do all they can and even what they can’t because some man simply chose not to be there. It is a shame and a growing problem. I’m addressing you ladies because you’re the gate keepers. He can say and do all he wants you have to grant him access. Screen these dudes! Get to know these men’s history if you‘re going to make decisions in the present that can forever effect your future. Children need both parents period. One can never do the job of two when it comes to child-raising.

This is directed at those people, men and women, who want to hoist these single mothers up for making a decision and putting themselves in a situation they would never want their daughters or sisters in. If you’re a woman out there doing it alone because you picked a loser guy, own that! Don’t express it to the child, just use that as motivation to not only not repeat it, but instill it in your child to not walk the path that you did.

Ladies out there doing it alone; I understand it’s a hard road you’re walking, one that can be filled with resentment, anger, and pain. Hold your head up for your children and for yourself. Just don’t do them or you the disservice of letting them think this is to be celebrated. Let them know it’s a struggle and not path they should choose.

For you men, if you’re going take these women out to eat you better be ready to be a man and cover the check. Leaving an angry woman to raise your fatherless child can go all sorts of wrong. From strange men in the picture to neglected children you need to be involved. Also never underestimate a woman scorned. Fill her up and bounce…and a scorned woman can have you left without the tip.

Let’s be true men and women. If we’re going to make adult decisions own up to them accordingly, and we need to stop giving props where “pops” should be.

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