“You never get a second chance to make a first impression”, “Put your best foot forward”, and a series of quotes and clichés have been said for years, all trying to stress the importance of “The Presentation.” Yes that initial encounter…that first “hello”.
I completely agree with this concept that we want to be at our best, especially when we first meet someone. That being said we need to keep things in perspective and try to hold on to some degree of honesty.
You know what I mean, ladies, when you meet that man in the nice car, with the nice clothes on and doing it “Big” at the bar or club. He has put one hell of a best foot forward, now how disappointing is it when you find out the car is rented, the clothes borrowed, and that was his rent money?
Don’t laugh too hard ladies because you’re just as guilty. Men know. We’ve all been fooled by those sweater dresses, push up bras, hair weaves, high heels and make up. You all know how to “sell” that “packaged perfection”. Then the sun comes up and we find that Saturday night’s Cinderella has become Sunday morning’s pumpkin.
Now before we get all, “that’s what you get for being shallow” or “those things are superficial” yes that is true. But for one moment don’t think you haven’t been fooled by the guy carrying books he’s never read, talking about issues he doesn’t give a damn about, heavy Lord praising, wearing glasses he doesn’t need, or even playing with children or pets that aren’t his.
That’s right there with the girl who either instantly cleaned up her act or whored it up over night. She “suddenly” loves sports, cooking, cars & comes down with a terrible case of the “giggles” every time you remotely say something funny.
Truth is we all lie…about who we are, who we’re not or who we’ve been. Let’s just reel it in a little.
More relationships would have a better chance of survival with a little more honesty from the jump. If the bar of deception is set high coming out of the gates how much or can we at all be upset about dishonesty later? If we shifted more into the mindset of working on who we are and what we’re presenting as opposed to "how" we present it, I think we’d be better served.
This is just a brief moment shedding light to the fact that the truth will eventually come out. The REAL truth, that is. After the MAC has been wiped away, the push up bra is gone & the heels have been kicked off. After she’s seen where you really work, live, & drive. After the kids have been discovered and the rap sheet revealed…
Because in the end, “The Presentation” may be what gets the immediate attention, but it’s the QUALITY of the product that will maintain the relationship.
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