“Back in the day“…as we get older so many of us find ourselves uttering that phrase. We think back to an earlier part of our life to when it all seemed to be so much more fun, safe, simple or just made more sense. Often we look back at our clothes, movies, and music as a reminder of how it used to be.
Recently I saw an old episode of a show that I loved watching when I was young… “A Different World”. It was a spin-off to the highly popular “Cosby Show”. Originally it was based around one of the older daughters “Denise Huxtable” and her first years away at college. Though the show grew into so much more; following the lives of other students after she left, starring a lot of actors & actresses that went on to have very successful careers, the part that stuck with me while watching this throwback to rayon shirts & flat top hair cuts was the theme song.
“I know my parents love me,
Stand behind me come what may.
I know now that I'm ready,
Because I finally heard them say
It's a different world from where you come from...”
It was so simple but real. When the show came on back in the late 80’s early 90’s the theme song was just an alarm to let me know it was on, but listening to it now I found myself thinking, “why am I not hearing this message anymore?”
“Here's a chance to make it,
If we focus on our goals.
If you dish it we can take it,
Just remember you've been told
It's a different world from where you come from…”
In this age of rampant running entitlement and coddling of children until they are nowhere near prepared for the real world, where is this message? Yes my parents love me. Yes they stand behind me. It will be hard but they’ve prepared me for life. It’s not going to be the same when I leave home, but that’s okay. If I stay focused, if I work hard I can make it. What happened?
I know television images changed after Cosby and the Coogi sweaters left, but can we please inject some of this back into the mindsets of not only these kids but their parents? Let these kids know there is no “Jordan Fairy” that drops off free $150 shoes while they sleep. “Swag” is not a marketable job skill, and no one is going to pay you to be cute unless it’s for a set hourly rate with “extras” or involves “clear heels”. Raise them, teach them well, then push these little birds out the nest and trust in the job you spent nearly 2 decades working at.
Back in the day…
As much as I would love to take things back to a little more interactive parenting, family togetherness, & a pair of flip-top glasses…maybe it’s me that has to realize…
“It’s a different world from where you come from.”
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