Wednesday, December 27, 2017
It’s about that time again…yes as 2017 comes to an end and the new year is upon us it’s almost January 1st a.k.a “cliché day”. The health club parking lots will be filled, college admissions on overload and the “New Year New Me” campaign officially jumps off! Now please don’t get me wrong. I have no issue with starting off the year right, with making changes and adjustments, and to be honest I‘ve waited to start things in January that I should have been doing in August myself.
Like many of us I’ve had a strong January, February took a dip, March & April were hanging by a thread and by June I was planning for next year. Why? Why is it so hard to stick to those resolutions? In my experience it was because my plan was flawed. I changed my behavior but not my value system. Working out was no more important to me in January than in October, I just started doing it. Without a change in my value system it was only a matter of time before what I really wanted to do took the place of what I was “just doing“. The 24hr Mexican spot is in the same parking lot as the 24 Fitness…burritos were beating bar dips everyday.
The $64,000 question, “How do we change our value system to care about things we don’t really care about?” Look I’m going to be honest, I’ve never liked working out but as I get older the idea of having to live on medication or not being able to do the things I want bothers me way more than some treadmill time. I honestly don’t appreciate being healthy more, I just hate the idea of what life being unhealthy would be like. Sometimes our shift in value comes from simply shifting our perspective. We may just have to look at things differently.
Being a better husband may not come in the form of liking what your wife likes to do more, but hating what it’s like when she’s unhappy may get you through “The Notebook“ and lead to a better night. You may not love your job any more, but the feeling and relief of not always having your supervisor on your back may make it easier for you to figure out how to show up on time. Sometimes we have to trick ourselves into what’s best for us.
Whether it be saving money, staying home, or even going out once in a while in order to have something different we have to do something different. If we’re not currently on the path to love, finance hell just happiness getting off these train tracks is going to require a major shift, and staying off is going to require consistent work…but you can do it…we can do it.
This is a brief moment saying good luck to everyone out there getting ready to make that change for 2018 and if having a great ‘18 isn’t motivation enough…just think about how you will feel having this same conversation with yourself in 2020!
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