Thursday, November 29, 2018

Time After Time


Keep putting off taking care of your finances,then find yourself unable to work like you used to. Keep thinking she's going to be there until "you're ready". Keep putting off taking care of your health until something minor becomes something major. With time being the only true currency that we have, many of us can really use some life financial planning.

In the words of Willie Mo Jr...

"The problem is you think you got time...time got you."

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Tuesday, November 13, 2018

Good Intentions/Bad Vision


Even people with the best intentions can come up with an idea of who they think we are and what we should be doing with our lives that doesn't fit. We have to make sure that inner voice we hear is actually our own. Listening to others is great but always remember that they can give us all of their criticisms but they don't have to live with any of our consequences. People will always try to put their expectations and sometimes their own regrets on us. To not fall victim we need to clearly understand and know who we are. Find your purpose and live it passionately.

Stick to your script and play your position, and for those confused folks...

they'll either learn the real you...or you'll learn the real them.


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Monday, October 22, 2018

One Day


The process won't be easy, there will be anxiety, pain and tears. But at some point we have to answer the question, "How many more birthdays am I going to exist in this space instead of living my life?"

This moment is dedicated to the people who want a little more...

Freeing yourself may involve breaking a part of you, cutting ties with something or even confronting someone...it's necessary...and you're worth it.


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Keep Shining




First of all these are in no way bad traits. It's just important to realize that when you're a beacon, when you're the light, you attract so many things that are trying to find their way out of the dark. There will be those that are drawn to you and instead of using they'll want to steal your light. And most don't even know they're doing it.

This moment is dedicated to all of the candles that seemed flooded by not only moths but those leeching mosquitoes.

Be there for others, but protect yourself.


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Friday, September 28, 2018

You Owe You



Get you some folks that know who they are, what they want, what they need, and who know how to treat you. Uncommitted souls will travel, that untethered soul that seems so exciting and free is that way for the same reason they won't be there for you. Half loves don't possess enough to sustain. One foot in one foot out doesn't make for a sturdy stance. All or nothing isn't a space they operate in and their inconsistency will drive you crazy. As for the integrity deprived, they will always rationalize their faults. It's only on them when they're winning, none of the back splash of fault hits their radar.

This moment is dedicated to those who know they deserve more...so have more.

You owe you more.


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Friday, September 7, 2018

DIY...Nah



If you need help, seek help. Pride may motivate us to great heights, it can help us push through & persevere but it can also be crippling. That need to "do it myself" can hurt our health, relationships and finances. There's no shame in reaching out and getting a personal trainer, tutor, marriage counselor, therapist or even talking to mom or dad.

This moment is dedicated to everyone out there who feels like they need to put the whole world on their back.

As great as it is to say that you "did it all by yourself" you are not diminished one bit by reaching out and tapping in with others, it doesn't make you any less valuable...

And if your ego just really needs the pat on the back...there's great pride in assembling a great team.

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Sunday, September 2, 2018

Talk That Talk


Relationships are hard. Communication is the foundation but a lot of times the issue is articulation. So many of us put all of this energy into wanting to be heard yet we're not sure on what it is we're trying to say. We all have these emotions and insights that are crystal clear to us, but the image can be a little streaky when explained to someone else. Phrases like, "you know what I mean" or "if you care you'd..." get used like duct tape to hold together an incoherent statement or confusing situation. No they don't know, and those sporadic verbal bread crumbs may not be enough to get them to.

This moment is simply about taking that breath...about being clear on what exactly it is we're trying to say before we through that verbal combination and demand someone to "see what we mean". It's easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of emotions and a tornado of our own thoughts. We can lose our perspective, our train of thought & some cases our minds...


...And I can't expect you to know where I'm coming from if I can't clearly tell you where I've been.


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Saturday, August 11, 2018

Rinse & Spit



Sandblasters are used on buildings and pavement, acid is used on tile, even teeth require scraping and drilling at times... for something as strong as the human spirit and soul it may take a few storms to wash and clean what life has thrown at us. But when it's done...look out!

It may seem hard but sometimes it takes harsh tactics, trials & tribulations to strip away the residue of past mistakes, trauma and circumstances. Like that trip to the dentist, we have emotional and real life cavities that may require a root canal. Getting all the way to the base of the problem and doing the work at the foundation. Though the process can be downright painful the result is healing and wellness.

This moment is dedicated to everyone who is "going through it". It may hurt now, but it's better to deal with that appointment and get a sucker at the end...

then to not and stay the sucker everyday.

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Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Snake Rattle & Roll



This is what happened when a King Cobra & a Reticulated Python met. The cobra's primary weapon is it's venomous bite and the python is one of the world's largest and strongest snakes. The cobra bit the python as it was constricted to death, the python died from the poisonous bite.

This isn't to show a case of what happens when an unstoppable force meets an immovable object...

...this moment is for everyone who has to deal with snakes of any kind.

Just be yourself, do what you need to do for you and stay out their presence...

these snakes will ultimately take each other out.

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Friday, August 3, 2018

Just Sit Right Back...



"It is not by coincidence that you are where you are. A whole set of thoughts, intentions and experiences brought you here." - Ralph Marston

You picked the boat, the crew, which sea to sail, which direction to go and when to leave. You may not have chosen the storm but you have way more control of your life than you might think.

This brief moment is dedicated to everyone who fails to realize they're the Skipper when life has them feeling like Gilligan.


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Sunday, June 3, 2018

Birds Of A Feather




“Why’s she with him?”, “I can’t picture you two together” , “that’s your friend?” Ahh yes! The company we keep… Some of us truly believe that we have some kind of broken radar when it comes to choosing men/women. That the world is filled to the brim with bad people and we seem to find every last one of them. In a world of no good men, disloyal hoes, shadiness at every turn and friendship trees that only bare Eddie Haskell fruit, we’re just trying to survive in these cold, cold streets. Our true tribe is out there somewhere and we’re just with “them” in the meantime. Maybe…Or are we really where we’re supposed to be?

I can only speak for myself (now don’t act like I’m the only one) but there was a time when I wasn’t overly particular about who I spent my time with. Miss Right was easily subbed out for Miss Right Now and good times occasionally beat out good people. I was running in circles and dating women that I didn’t feel represented the real me. But did it? I used to look at people with a degree of judgment somehow removing myself from the equation even though I was right there with them. Of all the individuals on the planet, I had a full network of these “types” of men and women. It took getting a little older and realizing that who I spent my time with was more telling of me then it was of them. Contrary to who I thought I was on the inside my actions and associations were screaming something different.

We all love to think that we picked wrong instead of dealing with the idea that maybe we were wrongly picked. That we were settling, not being settled for. In my mind I was living for the moment or just “having fun”. I felt as if I was the exception or the one that “didn’t belong there”. I saw myself as that one friend in the after school special who just got caught up with the wrong crowd. One bad mate/friend had me out of my element. The cold piece came when it hit me that if “Eagles don’t fly with pigeons” & “birds of a feather flock together” based on how I was living maybe I was a little more Finch than Falcon. There was a reason why these people were so accessible to me. Fruit is only low hanging to those at the bottom of the tree.

Now don’t get me wrong these were not “bad” people, they just didn’t live the kind of life I wanted to live. (Even though I was living it all the same) In my mind I was just passing through, but they lived there. A lot of them had settled into crappy circumstances, jobs they hated, were making permanent decisions with temporary people, were watching their dreams die daily and were content to stay there. Later I would learn that fear kept a lot of them in that space, and as much as I liked to say I was different from them we found ourselves together. It took me seeing that some of my insecurities and fears of failure kept me in the neighborhood of these like minded people. We were more similar than I cared to admit and it’s why we clicked in the first place. We were all on the same track running from ourselves. I was living a counterproductive life and they were down like four flat tires to join me. What made it worse was that I believed in my mind that I was “downgrading” in some of my choices of people to associate with not ever thinking that maybe they were the ones slumming it to be around me. I worked in questionable industries, drank a lot, partied frequently, fraternized with women that I knew my mama was never gonna meet etc… but I believed I was the Head Eagle In Charge…

This moment is just to shed a little light on how we see “those people”. The ones we think we’re better than and the situations we think we’re above. The truth is, coming to terms with the things I didn’t like about myself and addressing them inadvertently changed the people I was around. As my interests changed so did my environment. I entertained the people I was supposed to based on where I was with myself. If you’re someone who looks down on your circle. If you have comments, reservations or judgments on the people you date and kick it with regularly… you might want to check your feathers…

…your pigeon may be showing.

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